We’ve all been hurt.* Hard done by* by someone. Joe blow cheated on us. Mary borrowed a dress and ruined it. My ex beat me. My mother abused me.
We can all throw our troubles in a pile in the middle of a room and have a pissing contest but why bother? Troubles are troubles no matter how big or small. It still affected us in one way shape or form. We all deal with issues very differently.
Let’s take my parents for example. They were really shitty parents when I was younger but when I moved out and had a little family of my own suddenly mom became Mary fucking Poppins.
Anyway, they beat us, sometimes for no reason. I’ve forgiven and moved on whereas this move may be extremely difficult to the point of impossible for others.
Meh, life goes on.
You know, I get that forgiveness is not easy, at all. Many won’t do it in the name of “pride” though I still scratch my head on that one. Pride? Really? Others say they can’t do it because it’s too hard. Yup, you’re right there but it’s not impossible.
Forgiveness was necessary for me. I had reached a place in my life, finally in my 50’s, that it was just time to let shit go. And I did. I also discovered a few other reasons why it was time to forgive if I wanted to move forward in life.
1. I just need peace!!
I so desperately wanted to just feel peace in my heart. I needed my brain to shut down and stop replaying old stories in my head and causing me turmoil. I deserved peace, dammit, and I was going to have it. I was tired of carrying the weight of pain, hurt and anger. There was only one way to get rid of it. Forgive and move on.
2. You mean nothing.
The longer I carried these people in my head for, the more I attention I was giving them. They didn’t deserve that. They didn’t deserve one ounce of attention or thought from me so why was I giving it to them then? Why was I wasting precious room in my heart and my head on douchebags? It just didn’t make sense. Time to let go, forgive and move on.
3. Pardon me, that’s my cloud.
I didn’t weigh a thousand pounds anymore. I was lighter and cheerier and honestly felt like I was floating sometimes. Walking on clouds. My shoulders were back, my head held higher. I think I managed to get some self respect back! When you’re carrying a heavy load, don’t fool yourself, people feel it. They know. Energy doesn’t lie. Do yourself a favor, dump the load. Forgive and move on.
4. Stop your whining for God’s sakes.
Ever notice how people who carry grudges like to go on and on about the person who hurt them? They just won’t let up. They need to make sure everyone knows that Joe blow did them wrong. Stop doing that, we stopped caring a long time ago. Ya ya we get it, Joe is an asshole. Be done with it already. More people will want to spend time with you as soon as you sing a happier song. Forgive and move on.
5. I’m freeeeeeeeee!!!
Oh halleluiah. I’m free. No more chains around my heart, my ankles, my wrists. Grudges are dropped, hate is replaced with love, anger with peace and sorrow with happiness. Honest to God all this happens as soon as you let go of old past hurts. Trust me on this one. You will instantly feel free. Forgive and move on.
6. Power up!
The more I thought about these hurtful people the more power I was giving them over me and my happiness. Why was I doing that? Why was I giving these evil people my own personal power? How ridiculous. That’s my power!! I was letting them control my life and they didn’t even know it. They don’t deserve your power, it belongs to you. Take your power back. Forgive and move on.
So how do you forgive some of the meanest people ever? How do you release them from your mind and heart? It won’t happen overnight and it may take weeks or even months but you have to start.
Close your eyes, send them love, forgive them and release them. Everytime they creep back in your head, stop and do this again. Keep doing this until they eventually stop creeping in. Trust me, they will.
I can share my cloud with you if you like 🙂