8 Things That Happen When You Meet A Nice Guy After A Narcissistic Relationship.

8 Things That Happen When You Meet A Nice Guy After A Narcissistic Relationship.

Narcissistic Relationship

Breaking free from a narcissistic relationship is hard. You become used to putting up with him loving himself and no one else. You get used to that kind of behavior and sadly, you don’t do anything about it. Not until things go too far and beyond repair.

You have some happy moments when he ‘forgets’ how much he loves himself but most of the remaining time, you feel like crap because he doesn’t give a damn about you.

The only thing that the two of you have in common is that you both love the same person.

Narcissistic relationships are like drugs. You get addicted. You know that you have security and that you are not alone. So, you stick around out of fear of being alone.

Narcissistic relationships are challenging. You are 100 percent positive that you are the creator of your own happiness. You are—but you can’t and you shouldn’t control every little aspect of life. It’s is not your job to make this crappy relationship work. You are not the only one in it—it takes two to tango.

Narcissistic relationships are humiliating. You are dating someone who thinks he is above others—someone who thinks he is worth much more than anybody else and that includes you, too.

Your only role in a narcissistic relationship is to feed your guy’s ego because it’s all about him and you come second to that—and you always will.

After that, you lose your self-respect and your self-worth and you bring emotional baggage into your next relationship. You bring your fears and your insecurities—all because of that narcissistic D-bag.

When you finally find the courage to break the chains of your narcissistic relationship, you stumble upon another obstacle. You meet a good guy who treats you the way you deserve but you feel way out of your comfort zone because up to this point nothing was about you—everything was about him.

Here are some of the things that can happen to you when you meet a good guy after a narcissistic relationship:

1. He knows there is more to you than meets the eye

This is a completely new and strange feeling. He is confident in you. Your last relationship made you doubt yourself and all the choices you make. But, now you’ve met a person who knows you can do anything that you set your mind to.

2. He wants you to trust him

He knows that you’ve been in a relationship where your voice hasn’t been heard. He knows that you are living with a fear of history repeating itself. That’s why he is patient with you.

Your last relationship was built on an unstable, trustless ground. You were the one to blame for all the problems you had. It’s not a surprise that you lost the ability to trust people—your ex made you believe that.

This new guy knows that and he is working his way up to proving himself trustworthy. And what’s more important, he’s letting you learn to trust yourself again.

3. He treats you the way you deserve

He is kind to you all the time. He is doing the simplest things that you never experienced before. You’ve been trapped in a selfish relationship and you didn’t even think about what it would be like if your guy does something for you for a change.

But, now that you have it, you don’t know how to react.

4. He pays attention to what you’ve got to say

In your last relationship, it was all about him. The only word you’ve been hearing all that time was ‘I’. I did that, I was there…

But not this time. You have the right to speak when you want and you most definitely have the right to say what you want. Your new boyfriend will listen to you. He will be interested in what you’ve got to say. He wants to hear all about you and your past. He wants to know what you like or don’t like. He wants you to share your life with him.

5. He apologizes

You are used to apologize all the time for pretty much anything just to avoid arguments—although sometimes these things go out of control and you almost fight to death until someone walks away. And when you or he cools off, life continues. That emotional rollercoaster becomes normal—you enter an endless routine.

But it’s different with this guy. Of course, you will fight because everyone fights. But the one thing that is going to leave you speechless is that he’s going to say those three little words: “I was wrong.”

6. He will give you the world

You were always going an extra mile to suit the narcissist—but you got nothing in return.

But now, there is someone who will surprise you with flowers for no reason and who will bring you on dates and treat you like a queen. And all that with no hidden motives. He doesn’t need anything from you. He just loves you. It’s as simple as that.

7. He is not manipulative

Narcissists are men that like to be in control. But no one can control every part of their life and that’s when these guys lose it and take it out on others. That leaves you walking on eggshells around him—careful not to say something ‘wrong’.

When you enter a normal, healthy relationship, you learn that such behavior is nonexistent. You learn that relationships are all about compromise and that there are two voices to be heard—not one.

8. He teaches you what love really is

You realize that real love is mutual respect. You realize that real love is genuinely caring for someone. You realize that real love is fighting through life together.

Then you realize that your last relationship wasn’t about love. It was all a charade—it was a trap. He made you think you love him.

You realize what real love is when you wake up next to someone who treats you better—someone who treats you the way you deserve.

That leaves you wondering how you could have tolerated anything less than the treatment you have now.   

But you don’t feel ashamed and you don’t pity yourself. You are proud of yourself because it takes a strong woman to break free from a narcissistic relationship.

And you are one.

This article (8 Things That Happen When You Meet A Nice Guy After A Narcissistic Relationship) was originally published by Her Way and it is re-posted here with permission and attribution to Her Way.


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