Anxiety is something that we all have from time to time, especially before a first date or a big test. Social anxiety is a completely different story; there are some things that people say to anxious people that really hurt them.
A lot of people have extremely severe anxiety that prohibits them from doing normal day to day activities. Social anxiety is a bad thing to experience, and it can be even more difficult to treat it. Some of this people have an extremely hard time calling out for help because there is a growing stigma regarding their cases. A lot of people believe that anxious people are in control of their feelings. Generalized Anxiety Disorder is something that shouldn’t exist; it’s the direct result of emotional neglect, making people who suffer from this issue get used to it, thinking that it is normal.
Generalized Anxiety Disorder affects over 6.7 million adults or 3.2 percent of the entire US population, is characterized by persistent and excessive worry about a number of different things. They have experience excessive anxiety and worry, often expecting the worst of every situation. This causes them from seeking help because they minimize their own issues. If someone with generalized anxiety disorder comes to you for help, you never say these things to them. They legitimately hurt them.
1. You have a lot to be grateful for.
In today’s world, everyone has a lot to be grateful for. People who have anxiety aren’t dissatisfied with the external forces of life, it’s internal. Anxiety people aren’t ungrateful and telling them this makes them feel that way. Also, makes them more afraid to seek help in fear of people thinking they’re spoiled or ungrateful. Instead, tell them how much you appreciate them.
2. Never say “should”.
Should is a bad term because it describes something that isn’t there. Never tell them what they really should do, think, or feel. Instead of that ask what would make them feel better, offer some meditation for a change!
3. Everything will be OK.
This is the most generic words anyone can say. Everything will be okay, it doesn’t make anyone feel better or solve any issue. It’s a lazy consultation and it makes them feel like nobody understands. Instead, say, don’t worry or I am here for you always!
4. Just be happy.
Everyone tries to be happy, it takes a little more power and focuses. Anxiety is the major obstacle in the pursuit of happiness, making it more complicated than ‘just be happy’. In order to be happy, the patient has to study to manage their anxiety symptoms.
5. What do you have to be Anxious about?
This is a horrible word to say because it minimizes their issues. Nobody wants to be told feeling that way. Instead, ask them something else how you can make them feel less stressed.
6. It’s all in your head.
Anxiety is a psychological issue that takes place in our head… This statement makes them feel crippled and trapped by their illness. Stop telling them that they are stupid for feeling this way and ask them what you can do to have some fun around.
7. There are people with much bigger problems.
Telling someone that their problems are small compared to other persons is just a dick thing to say. No matter what external forces make you upset, you should never feel like your issues don’t matter because other people go through worse things. It’s never about what’s happening, it’s about how it makes you feel.
8. Stop feeling bad for yourself.
People are often labeled as self-pitying or seeking sympathy. It is okay to ask people for help and tell them that there is something wrong with you. You should never ever persecute someone for admitting they aren’t okay. It’s okay not to be okay sometimes, I promise!