If you’re not quite sure what qualifies you to be an adult, it may come as a shock that it’s your ability to take responsibility for your own life. While this may seem like a no-brainer for some, for others, adulting is a little bit tougher, which can be attributed to a number of reasons. For instance, upbringing, education, and environment all play a part in how quickly we are willing and able to take responsibility for our own lives. Those who may feel left behind and still need to get back their lives will find Dr Jordan B. Peterson, psychology professor at the University of Toronto, to be a refreshing gust of wind.
Happiness Is Not The Goal, Being A Decent Human Being Is
Whether it’s Hollywood blockbusters or self-help gurus that flood our minds about our ultimate goals, the pursuit of happiness, according to Dr Peterson, is a fruitless pursuit. Not only will it leave the individual striving for something that changes according to circumstances, but it also places the individual in a situation of self-doubt and panic when they aren’t happy. Instead, Dr Peterson encourages his listeners and viewers to take charge of their lives instead. This empowers them to become a better version of themselves, and through this becoming better human beings.
The True Meaning Of Life
There is no denying that hardship will happen. As Dr Peterson says, “Life is hard” and “It’s tainted by malevolence and betrayal. That can make you bitter. You need a meaning to offset that. Where is the meaning to be found? Not in rights, not in impulsive pleasure, but in responsibility.” Taking up the responsibility to function as an adult is not only hard to do but is a reward in itself. Not making excuses empowers individuals to be proactive to anything that life throws at them, which also allows them to flourish in chaos. By taking responsibility, they will be able to choose the way they react to a situation, and not allow the situation to elicit a reaction.
Why The 12 Rules Matter
Part of Dr Peterson’s claim to fame is his book, 12 Rules For Life: An Antidote to Chaos. The book encompasses basic truths about life and our response to it in order to live a life that has meaning. There are four themes discussed within the 12 essays in this book, which discusses discipline, responsibility, freedom, and adventure. These four work together in harmony in order to restore calm in the chaos. These are fundamental in order to create a space where the self can develop without fear or condemnation. While these may seem like basic truths, they equip the individual with tools at their disposal in order to take control of their own lives.
Self-development can only take place in an environment where the individual is willing to take responsibility for themselves. This ensures that the individual is empowered to make the right decisions, as they no longer hold others accountable for their personal development.
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